about wedding part 1

As promised, i will blog about wedding.

Well, as Indonesian, my parents care a lot about i am not getting married soon.
Since my second year in my college life, they had tried to introduce me to some guys and hoped i could clique with one of them. I observe in Indonesia, a lot of parents like to let their children marry soon, especially for girl one. It is a taboo if a woman still has not married when their ages reach late 20s.
Then parents will be a match maker so that their child is not left out.
Well, personally my parents nag me a lot about this, about why until now i still don’t have any boyfriend, and don’t have intention in getting married.

When finally we have intention in getting married, they (parents) will be the one who organize the wedding party. They can be a very good wedding organizer, from choosing the date, order wedding dress, book (search and book) the venue, even deciding the menu on that actual day.
The most important thing, usually parents will be the main sponsor of that wedding.
The bad point is that the bride and groom can’t really decide what kind of wedding they want to hold, because parents will arrange what kind of wedding they want to have for their son/daughter.

While i observe here in Singapore, based on forum that i read… The bride and groom to be are the one who in charge more in organizing their own wedding. The bride and groom to be must estimate their own funds and allocate wisely.

Planning the wedding themselves can be very fun but also can bring a long quarrellings.
Especially if they want to save money here and there. Then try to cut here and there, until the wedding is not that meaningful.
To have a simple wedding already need to have a big amount of money.

Back to topic…
In Indonesia, parents seem the one who take more effort in realizing their children’s wedding.
Parents of the groom will propose (visit the parents of the bride and ask them to hand their daughter to their son)

For example, if my bf propose me to be his wife, then he must visit my parents with his parents, to tell my parents about his will to marry me. they must make a formal visit to my parents.
but before that my parents of course already aware about my relationship with my bf, and agree if one day i will marry him. if they don’t agree they won’t let me go into the relationship.
But here i see the parents seem to be more passive, they just wait until their children tell them that they are going to get married. And parent are not really involved in planning the wedding.
Then in my country, the ROM and wedding dinner is held in the same day .
Well the ROM is not that important, the most important is the actual day when they hold the wedding (dinner/lunch). The tradition is almost the same, tea ceremony etc.
Because parents are involved much in preparing the wedding, then they have the most privilege to invite their guests.

Well, actually each tribe in Indonesia has its own traditional wedding
Then it has its own wedding dress, the food, the ceremony differently.
But i don’t want to try it one day i decide to get married ;p just a little bit troublesome and a lot of pantangs. =)

Reading topics in wedding forum makes me want to get married soon.
I think it’s very fun to plan out our own wedding. Then i think i would like to help my friend to plan their dream wedding too. Organizing such event make me excited.
Well maybe one day i can be a wedding organizer
To prepare one wedding can take around 6 months to 1 year. Quite a long preparation, but its worth if we can make the clients happy and satisfied. This satisfaction is important in advertising and promote the business. Testimony is the best advertisement.

I think on the next post about wedding, i’ll write what should we prepare for wedding
a long to do list =)

banjir

Kota gw kebanjiran!
Banjir terbesar kedua setelah tahun 1965. Tapi thank God, rumah gw kaga kena
Aman damai dan tentram. Tentu saja kalo sampai rumah gw kebanjiran, kota Solo sudah menjadi danau kali ya? soalnya rumah gw itu termasuk daerah paling tinggi.

Hmm saatnya kota Solo belajar yang namanya menjaga kebersihan, gak buang sampah sembarangan yang kalau hujan turun berhari-hari bakal bikin saluran macet, sungai meluap dan…. banjir datang

GW lagi ga ada topik yang mau dibahas, dan lagi males nulis pake bahasa inggris.
so… yah begini lah, kayanya bahasa indo lebih cocok dipake ketika pingin nulis gak jelas hehe.
lebih gimana gitu dalam menyampaikan maksud hati. =p

sebenernya ada satu topik menarik yang pingin gw tulis, akibat dari membaca sebuah forum.
jadi pengen ngebahas juga di blog ini. hmm liat besok lah kalo gw di kantor besok kaga ada kegiatan, gw bkal tulis hehe… topiknya itu tentang ‘wedding’.

just want to compare how the way Singaporean teenagers think about wedding and how indonesians think about it. I think got a lot of major differences, especially involving parents in planning the wedding.

back to today…
today i buy 2 stuffed animal to be donated to toy’s day.
my boss was generous this year because he donates a lot of toys. Yesterday he went to office to pass me the toys and went to another office to work. wah, so good he is.
i’m sure this year toy’s day will be successful and can bless all the children.
Today i’ve finished my colleague task last time… he did halfway then now i continue it.
Quite lazy to read and study about it in the first time, but after know and understand a bit, i feel it is not too difficult to do. it’s still easier than programming.

Today i were angry… because my office tea lady bought a wrong lunch for me!
i ordered rice, how come she gave me beehoon?
she always order wrongly for me. dunno what she thinks, or maybe she hates me.
that time got one time i order lunch from her, i said only $2.50, but she charged me $3.
then if i order lunch $3.20, she charged me $3.50. Arrgghh!!!
I hate her. Then everytime i tok to her, she just pretend never understand what i am talking about. grrr!

Well enough ranting about today… :p
i feel so sleepy, maybe tonite wanna sleep early.

love story part 1

Let me tell you a story of my friends since their story is similar to mine…
Due to privacy let’s call them Mr.X, Miss Y and Mr.Z.

Once upon a time… lives an ordinary girl, named Miss Y.
She is a kind innocent girl, a little bit stubborn and not easily give up in reaching her dream.
To make the story short, she likes her friend, Mr Z.
They are chatting almost everyday, talking about everything, teasing each other. They are good friend, more than that, they are close friend.
Until one day Miss Y thought she has fallen for Mr Z.
Since she is a daring person, she gives hints to Mr Z. But… love is not going to be easy for Miss Y.
Because, Mr Z doesn’t give any good response, but can’t say Miss Y has no hope too since Mr Z shows no rejection to her.
Then Miss Y decided to wait for Mr Z to be ready to go into relationship and just remain friend for current time.

Miss Y likes Mr Z because she can be herself in front of him, enjoy to be with him and she can show her weaknesses to Mr Z without fear that Mr Z won’t accept her.
Short story she enjoys the friendship with Mr Z.

Mr Z is a cool and patient guy, he is a good listener also, give companion to miss Y in difficult time. Mr Z is a very busy man at work, most of his time he spends in office, working.
Time management is one of his reason not to go into any relationship with any girl.
Because he is afraid he cannot manage his time well, then might neglect his girlfriend. This will be unfair for the girlfriend.
He has intention to find a gf, but time management is one of the hindrance.
He is planning he will start looking for gf when he can settle with his job. Maybe look for another better job that no need to do a lot of overtime.
But he is a faithful man too that he doesn’t want to quit his current job due to the project he has involved (the project that don’t know when can finish).
I think the customer want a lifetime support, some more the customer is hard to please and like to exploit people. Huh!

So, while Miss Y is waiting for Mr Z to settle his problems, she is not closing her heart.
She like to be friends with a lot of people… until she met Mr X.
What a coincident, Mr X is a friend of Mr Z! How small this world is.
Well, usually she doesn’t like to be friend with stranger, but since Mr X is Mr Z’s friend, why not she become his friend too.
Time flies, they become closer too.
Until one day, Mr X asked Miss Y to be his gf.

Uhm.. it’s not fair if i never write about Mr X.
Well, Mr X is a smart guy. He is a romantic person ( not a cool guy type). He is nice, caring and capable. Well from what i heard from Miss Y, Mr X doesn’t have any bad points. He is a great guy, that has a lot of female friends ( dunno can consider him as a playboy or not, this one she never mentioned clearly how he maintained his friendship with a lot of female friends).
Well, since he has a lot of female friends, he can be a playboy or, he is really a nice and gentleman guy. Well if he is really nice and gentleman, then can give him score almost perfect in his characters to be a perfect boyfriend. . He is a very busy person too at work.

To compare Mr X and Mr Z.
* Miss Y likes Mr Z better because she know him longer than Mr X.
* Miss Y never meet with Mr X in person.
* Mr X and Mr Z, both busy with their work.
* Both are not in the same city with Miss Y.
* Mr X is romantic, Mr Z is cool.
* Mr X is ready for relationship, but Mr Z is not.

When Mr X asked Miss Y to be his gf, she thought he was joking only, and never took it seriously.
She kept wondering why Mr X would ask her to be his gf. He even hasn’t met her in person, what made him sure about her. What he saw in her.
She was hoping that Mr Z was the one who asked her to be his gf. But he did not.
Now she is still confused what must she does? Should she wait for Mr Z to be ready and propose her? or should she just accept Mr X, since she doesn’t hate Mr X too.
Mr Z knows that Miss Y likes him. Miss Y is not sure whether their feeling is mutual.

If you were Miss Y,
What factors will be your consideration in choosing life partner?
What should Miss Y do? Should she wait for Mr Z, or should she accept Mr X?

(to be continued)

2008 resolution (draft)

Christmas is over, means it’s time to make a new resolution!
2008 is coming!

Since 2007 is going to end soon in few days…
let me remember about my resolution i’ve made early this year

Remembering what i have done in 2006, what is my achievements, and what is my failures.
What i need to do in 2007, for God, for my family, for my friends, for myself.

2007 RESOLUTION

In my spiritual life,
* i wish i can maintain a stable relationship with God.
* read bible 4 chapter everyday.
* i want to serve God more in ushering ppls.

In my characters,
* more patient.
* have a teachable heart.
* reduce my stubbornness.
* more humble.
* learn to accept ppl whatever they are.

In my study,
* learn mandarin until advanced level by this yr
* be able to speak in mandarin
* learn troubleshooting
* learn photoshop, adobe illustrator, coreldraw (design)

My daily life,
* i wish i could reduce my weight err.. 1 kg per 2 months.
* exercise at least once a week.
* eat a good n healty food.
* save $1000 per month.

In my work life,
* pray for my pre-believer colleagues
* i want apply PR.

In my family life,
* i wish for my family salvation
* financial breakthrough.

In care group,
* get involved more in CG
* be a shepherd

Well… some i’ve done, some haven’t done.
This year i shall close with a new resolution for 2008.
But let me think again wisely

2008 RESOLUTION (Draft)

In my spiritual life,
* i wish i can maintain a stable relationship with God.
* read bible 4 chapter everyday.
* i want to serve God more.
* tithing monthly.

In my characters,
* be more patient.
* be humble.
* give more, expect less.
* have a teachable heart.
* reduce my stubbornness.
* learn to accept ppl whatever they are.

In my study,
* take TOEFL/IELTS course and test.
* think about one field except IT to study.
* learn JAVA.

My daily life,
* go on diet.
* exercise at least once a week.
* eat healthy food.
* eat fruit at least 3 times a week.
* save $1000 per month.

In my work life,
* pray for my pre-believer colleagues.
* drink less alcohol.

In my family life,
* family salvation.
* financial breakthrough.
* visit grandma.

In care group,
* get involved more in CG.
* be more creative.
* join church camp.

In relationship,
* have new friends.
* find bestfriend.
* pray for life partner.

Ok, that’s all for draft

Christmas

MeRrY ChRiStMaS!!

This Christmas i celebrated with my church friends.
We went to JB, Austin Golf Club to count down Christmas.
Basically we did a lot of shopping and eating.
The shopping was fun, but not for the eating. We spend quite a lot of money on food, but the food was disappointing. My suggestion, go JB, just eat normal cheap food will do, the taste not much different, then you will have more funds to shop .

The bad news is, my long weekend shall end. tomorrow must go back to work. sigh.
i still want holiday!!
well let’s count how many days to Chinese New Year… Still 1 month + to go.

This year we still have the same christmas charity, named Toy’s Day.
We invite children from the low income family to celebrate christmas together.
The main concept is to bless the children by giving christmas gifts and impart the good values to them.
Here are some preparation photos of Toy’s Day…

—-Toy’s Day—-

—-THE TOYS—-

Toys we have collected and still receiving more toys donation.

—-THE WRAPPING TEAM—-

wrapping team

never finish wrapping

—-THE DECO TEAM—-

deco team

deco team fold fold fold…

deco team.. preparing the decoration

—-THE ARTS TEAM—-

game booth drawing team.

onion ring looks like a zeppelin balloon.

flying ball booth game

shincan family quiz

erwin was drawing seriously

preparing for the game

me…

one of the game

—-THE PHOTOGRAPHER—-

hari, the cameraman

—-THE STAGE TEAM—-

the MC with the guitarist.

—-THE VOLUNTEERS—-

the volunteers.
look at their happy face, excited to bless the children.
how about you?

To take part into this event is easy.
just contact me.. drop me comment or email me for further information.
You can just donate toys, or be a volunteer for that day.
you are most welcome
Let’s celebrate Christmas differently and make it meaningful in your heart

Merry Christmas everyone.
Hope this Christmas will bring you a lot of happiness and joy, not only for yourself but also for the people around you
GBU!

a leaf that has fallen to the ground

i were looking behind.
to a place that i were not looking at it
these recent time.

it was empty.
but i kept looking at it.
and it would not change anything,
it is still empty.

the person who left, would never come back.
and i am still standing there.
looking at the empty place.
a place that i almost forget.

I’m waiting for emails that will never come.
I’m waiting for calls that my phone will never rings.
I’m hoping a miracle that will never happens.
i keep hoping and hoping.
but actually i know that is only an empty hope.

a leaf that has fallen to the ground,
will never come back to the tree.
but the good news is still,
it comes back to the mother earth.

ps: you will treasure someone when you’ve lost them, and it is too late.

Merry Christmas :)

Waaa today i’m so happy…
Today i went to office on my off day! just to be a santa claus ^_^
Then i went to Suntec City Mall, The Rock Auditorium to celebrate Christmas.
That was fun, singing christmas carols, praising & worshiping God.
The most exciting part was exchanging gift . Received a lot of gift this year
Thanks a lot friends ^_^

Another exciting part is, i have my first Nuffnang advetorial!!!
See, see, see…. —–>>>>
Yay! This one is a new step for me ^_^

My wishes this Christmas:
I hope this Christmas i can reconcile fully with someone.
I hope for my family health
I hope can get closer to God and find my purpose in Him.

Screening : National Treasure 2 : Book of Secret

Watching National Treasure, book of secret today @ Suntec City Mall.
Thanks to Nuffnang once again i can get the tickets

The movie was great.
I love historical movie. Well the concept is slightly not much different with the first National Treasure Movie.
But i dun really like Nicholas Cage there. Not so ~ handsome… Xp
I like to see historical place, the way they make this movie really make me want to go there to see.

While watching this movie, i couldn’t concentrate. I just enjoy the scenery and the puzzle, and how they solve the puzzle. But seems not really good the way they arranged the puzzle.
Anyway… go and watch yourself

Thanks again to Nuffnang

Another farewell

I was so sad to lose a friend like you.
To lose you forever, until the day we will meet again someday.
I was curious to know what happen to you. My regret is that i am no longer close to you, no longer be your close friend. But you always be my bestfriend in my heart.
It such a great lost to me, to know you are no longer there.

Everytime i remember about you, i cannot bear my tears.
Even when i write this post, my tears keep flowing down.

Let tonight i remember again all about you.
Writing down all the memories i have about you.
After that i will close this book and never open it again.

First time i met her was 10 years ago, when i was in first junior school.
We met in Caregroup, and i was ignoring you.
But after that, we start serving together, growing together, and taking part in ministry together.
Spent a lot of time together, wrote letter of encouragement to each other.
I still have your letter. Lucky i never bring them here, if not i will read them again and again. and i will keep crying and crying.
I was jealous toward you when we were together in ministry, and you knew about that, but you were still nice to me. We even become closer.
At school, we always went to canteen together during break time, even set a prayer group together at school.
I remember we did a lot of things together, planned a lot of things together.
You had been such a great courage to me, a friend that always there for me. Whenever i feel sad or down, you never fail to encourage me, to listen to me.

I still remember that day when u told me that you’re leaving.
I cried. that you went so far away. But i still had hope to meet you again one day.
We kept contact each other by writing our activities on diary, and exchanged tat diary for each other read.
To share each other crush. to share joy, to share difficulties, to share burdens.

It’s so sudden you leave and i just cant take it easily.
You know, we all really miss you so much.
Although the sentence were never spoken, but each of us know, that our friendship will nver change.
It’s a great opportunity to know you, to have you as my bestfriend and i thank God.
You had been such a big impact in my life. Without your encouragement, without your advise, i may not become what i am today.
Thank you friend. i hope and i pray all the best for you.
You know the truth, whatever way you choose, you shouldn’t regret it. I dun dare and i don’t want to think further. I don’t want to assume anything.

God, i just can’t believe all this thing happens so sudden. I just don’t want to believe.
The first time i heard about the news i was like shocked. It’s impossible! She just updated her profile few days ago you know. I was like can’t accept it. I was still thinking she was just there, doing her study, and nothing happens. Maybe those people have mistaken. Maybe that was coincidence, the person have the same name. But no. It’s true. I learn to accept and move on.
I shall continue my life, even without you, friend, but you will always live in my heart.

Goodbye my friend.

goodbye my friend

Life is so short.
You won’t have enough time to understand.
Where there is a meeting, there will be a farewell.

smile, laughter, tears will always be there.
from morning, until night, then come to morning again.
time flies. fast.
and you won’t have time to regret
what has happened.

when you regret,
you will know that you’ve lost it.

if tears can describe the feeling..
maybe it can tell,
that we always love her.

Goodbye my friend.
But i know i’ll meet you again someday.